The Great Unbecoming: Returning Home To Your True Self Before The Cycle Resets

"This is the season of release, of truth, of returning home to myself"

There is something sacred about this moment in time. The air feels different as we enter the final month of the year; the last breath of a collective nine-year cycle, the final chapter before everything resets. These weeks are not just about endings… they are about preparing the soil for who we are becoming. There is a quiet invitation humming beneath the surface, calling us back to truth, clarity and intention, gently guiding us towards the deepest realisation of all — the real journey begins when we finally learn how to be my true self in a world that constantly asks us to be everything else.

December carries a specific frequency this year. It is not a month of rushing, striving or forcing outcomes. It is the month of unbecoming. The month of shedding. The month of releasing the identities that were born from survival rather than authenticity. The energy is asking us to step forward with open hands and softened shoulders, to let go of the patterns that have weighed heavily on our hearts, to breathe out the versions of ourselves we outgrew quietly and without fanfare. It is the moment we finally exhale the exhaustion of pretending, performing, dimming and accommodating.

It is the moment we choose truth.

When I look back at this cycle, not just the year, but the nine years that have shaped so many of us — I see a collective rising. A gentle awakening happening underneath the noise. I see people questioning who they’ve been told to be, noticing where they have abandoned themselves, realising that the world does not require the diluted version of who they are. I see a world learning slowly, bravely, and often painfully, how to return to authenticity. A world learning the quiet complexity of how to be my true self, even when it feels terrifying.

This is the Great Unbecoming — the sacred process of stripping away everything that isn’t ours.

The old roles.

The outdated identities.

The coping mechanisms that once protected us but now keep us small.

The self-sabotage masquerading as comfort.

The behaviours that no longer match our values.

The people-pleasing, the dimming, the quietness we put on like an old coat every time we were afraid to be fully seen.

Unbecoming is not destruction. Unbecoming is liberation.

There is a quiet beauty in laying down the heaviness we were never meant to carry. There is empowerment in choosing our path with intention rather than obligation. There is grace in acknowledging what we have outgrown. There is peace in saying, “This version of me was necessary, but she is not the one who will lead me into the next cycle.”

There is courage in whispering, “I am ready to learn how to be my true self again,” and allowing that sentence to reorder your entire life.

This is the time for recalibration.

For truth.

For clarity.

For softening.

For choosing peace without apology.

For returning to your centre and leading your life from the one place that has always been real — your inner knowing.

To support this transition into the new cycle, here are five strategic steps to guide your own Great Unbecoming — a gentle structure for the shedding and a preparation ritual for the life you are stepping into:

1.⁠ ⁠Release the identities that no longer fit

There are roles you played because you needed to survive. Identities you held because they once made you feel safe. Versions of yourself you created for acceptance, for peace-keeping, for belonging. This is the moment to thank them for their service and let them go. Clearing space is the first step in learning how to be my true self in a world that benefits from my confusion.

2.⁠ ⁠Interrupt every pattern born from fear, not truth

Your soul knows the difference. Fear-based patterns feel heavy, draining and familiar. Truth-based choices feel expansive, light and aligned with your higher self. Notice what you cling to when you feel small. Notice where you shrink, silence, or compromise. Interrupt it gently. Replace it with something that honours who you are becoming, not who you were forced to be.

3.⁠ ⁠Rebuild your non-negotiables from intention, not obligation

This new cycle requires structure — not rigid discipline, but soulful devotion. Your non-negotiables are not punishments. They are declarations of self-respect. Move, nourish, create, connect, rest, write, breathe, honour yourself daily. Build habits that support the life you are calling in. Non-negotiables are the bridge between desire and embodiment.

4.⁠ ⁠Surround yourself with people who recognise your becoming

There is a certain type of person who sees your power before you see it in yourself. Keep them close. Your next chapter cannot be built in environments that only remember your past. Protect your energy. Honour your boundaries. Choose community consciously. Your evolution deserves witnesses who celebrate your expansion, not fear it.

5.⁠ ⁠Speak your intentions into existence with unapologetic clarity

The new year is not an accident; it is a frequency. Gather your intentions, your desires, your inner knowing. Speak them aloud. Write them down. Declare them with certainty. Every intention is a permission slip to step deeper into your authenticity. Every affirmation is an anchor that returns you to how to be my true self when the world tries to pull you away.

This final month is not a countdown - it is a ceremony. We are preparing for the next cycle with truth, courage, grace, devotion, presence and a heart wide open. We are entering the next chapter uncluttered, unhiding, unarmoured and unafraid. We are choosing alignment over approval, embodiment over performance, authenticity over expectation.

We are learning how to be my true self in every moment, not just when it feels safe.

We are learning how to be my true self in every conversation, not just with people who understand us.

We are learning how to be my true self in the small choices, the daily rituals, the quiet decisions that shape our destiny.

This is the Great Unbecoming.

The final clearing before the rise.

The last exhale before the first breath of the new cycle.

The dissolution of everything untrue… so the truth of who you are can finally lead.

May this month be your preparation.

May the new cycle meet you with clarity.

May your next chapter be built on the foundation of your authentic self — the version of you the world has been waiting for.

With Love

Jenna ✨